too.. many.. comments.. to.. read.. so I'll just reply quick.
for someone who could (and, no, isn't, but just sayin', could) take this as a direct reference to 90% of what I've written, all I can say is - sometimes you feel like the sexual creeps into every relationship you have. seriously. you can't look at someone without wondering what kind of sexual relationship they'd want out of you. what kind of obligation there would be in that kind of intimate setting. and thus every single person you meet ends up having every kind of shade of sexual/romantic/friendly dynamic to your interaction with them. having this ends up making it hard to write people's complex interpersonal dynamics *without* having those boundaries continually cross over each other, because in your own life you don't have those boundaries either.
is this the likely reason most people write like that? do most of the writers we know have these boundary issues? It's possible. I certainly know a few. it's certainly why I tend to lean towards exploring the kind of complex dynamics between people that are colored by every possible relationship they could have. --well, I should say "attempt to explore", since it's a fifty-fifty chance that I'll succeed.
so that's one why that someone might write in this manner. is this boundary issue a childish way to view relationships? I can't say, struggling with it myself. someone else probably would probably say it is, and heh, I'm not going to argue. but just because those boundaries are crossed, that doesn't mean they're going to end up in a good place because of it. I think that's the truly childish view.
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Date: 2004-01-13 12:00 am (UTC)for someone who could (and, no, isn't, but just sayin', could) take this as a direct reference to 90% of what I've written, all I can say is - sometimes you feel like the sexual creeps into every relationship you have. seriously. you can't look at someone without wondering what kind of sexual relationship they'd want out of you. what kind of obligation there would be in that kind of intimate setting. and thus every single person you meet ends up having every kind of shade of sexual/romantic/friendly dynamic to your interaction with them. having this ends up making it hard to write people's complex interpersonal dynamics *without* having those boundaries continually cross over each other, because in your own life you don't have those boundaries either.
is this the likely reason most people write like that? do most of the writers we know have these boundary issues? It's possible. I certainly know a few. it's certainly why I tend to lean towards exploring the kind of complex dynamics between people that are colored by every possible relationship they could have. --well, I should say "attempt to explore", since it's a fifty-fifty chance that I'll succeed.
so that's one why that someone might write in this manner. is this boundary issue a childish way to view relationships? I can't say, struggling with it myself. someone else probably would probably say it is, and heh, I'm not going to argue. but just because those boundaries are crossed, that doesn't mean they're going to end up in a good place because of it. I think that's the truly childish view.
but what do I know?