1. Call your mother. I can't say for certain, obviously, but when we're under a great deal of stress - which it sounds like your mother is - we say things and take stands that perhaps aren't the best thing to be doing. The part of you that wonders if it's maybe a good idea to be the one to eat crow is right on the money, although I understand that it's probably not going to be the most enjoyable thing in the world. Just keep in mind that self-respect can be found in being the bigger person, too.
2. Oh, man. Join the club. I've been looking on a lot of the goings-on lately with absolute loathing and disgust and wondering exactly why I was sticking around. I finally identified what parts of the community I was still enjoying - for me, the fic, my archives in an abstract sense(including yours, which is moving towards something resembling completion, if slowly :), and the circle of people I can trust not to pull the sort of stuff that's been pissing me off in the first place. You've always been a fair bit more involved in the actual mechanics of the community than I have, though, so I don't know... maybe it is time to pass on some of those elements? The fact that the answer's not simple seems to indicate that you don't feel ready to chuck the whole thing just yet, so maybe you should just be looking to eliminate the things that have Ceased To Be Fun And/Or Rewarding? I don't know... I wish I had an answer.
3. (And yes, I know you didn't ask a third question.) Send Doqz out for some echinacea tea/tablets if you don't have any on hand (I don't know your view on homeopathic stuff :). You don't have to STAY sick. :)
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2. Oh, man. Join the club. I've been looking on a lot of the goings-on lately with absolute loathing and disgust and wondering exactly why I was sticking around. I finally identified what parts of the community I was still enjoying - for me, the fic, my archives in an abstract sense(including yours, which is moving towards something resembling completion, if slowly :), and the circle of people I can trust not to pull the sort of stuff that's been pissing me off in the first place. You've always been a fair bit more involved in the actual mechanics of the community than I have, though, so I don't know... maybe it is time to pass on some of those elements? The fact that the answer's not simple seems to indicate that you don't feel ready to chuck the whole thing just yet, so maybe you should just be looking to eliminate the things that have Ceased To Be Fun And/Or Rewarding? I don't know... I wish I had an answer.
3. (And yes, I know you didn't ask a third question.) Send Doqz out for some echinacea tea/tablets if you don't have any on hand (I don't know your view on homeopathic stuff :). You don't have to STAY sick. :)